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The Supreme Court has struck down part of the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) which will allow national recognition of same-sex marriages. This also snatched the rug out from under California’s Prop 8, making gay marriage legal. I just know somebody is gonna lose sleep over it. So I’m here to set your mind at ease.
Losing freedom of religion. Having privacy infringed upon. Being denied the right to vote. These are reasons to lose sleep and file lawsuits. Same-sex marriage isn’t that big a deal. But here’s something you can do about it:
1. Stay in your lane
“By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” —John 13:35
If your goal, before the DOMA decision, was to grow and become more like Christ, then nothing should change for you. Keep raising your families. Keep following peace. Keep encouraging. Keep abiding in faith, hope, and charity. Do you love Him? Keep feeding His sheep. This is the proper response to the ruling.
I’ve been guilty of aiming a smirk at feminine men. I may also raise an eyebrow at women who look better in shorts and wifebeaters than I do. But I’m working on that. People are who they are. Gay couples ain’t botherin’ me. My job is to love them. You cannot minister to anyone you don’t love.
1 Peter commands us to be holy, but it doesn’t say “make sure your neighbor does it too.” Let the weight and burden of other people’s decisions fall off your back. You’re not responsible.
2. Don’t get mad
You mad? If so, I understand. There is a fear that this ruling could be a slippery slope for invasive legislation in the future. But as a result, some may want to double down on demonstrating their displeasure. Please don’t do this.
When you do Westboro Baptist Church things in the name of Christianity, it’s horribly embarrassing to everyone else on the team. If you disagree with anyone’s lifestyle, rather than try to convince them they don’t enjoy their life, work on making yours better. Live out loud. Let your actions speak louder than you do. That’s what Matthew 5:16 says. That voice will carry.
“Living well is the best revenge.”
3. Know how people are
Just because we vote a law in does not mean it will be followed. It just means the offenders may be punished. Possibly. Making behavior illegal does not stop it from happening. Even if every Christian votes “on one accord,” and we win every battle, and outlaw everything God finds abominable, people will still sin.
You cannot legislate holiness. Moses couldn’t do it with a bunch of Israelites then, and the separation of powers can’t do it now. Only God can change a heart. If you thought the U.S. Constitution would help spread the Gospel, you misunderstood who’s got the power.
4. Do the right thing
Though I prefer the traditional model of marriage I grew up with, not everybody is gonna fall into it. The Bible has provisions for them too. Philippians 2:3 says, “Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.”
Out of sheer compassion, I don’t want someone’s gay partner denied health benefits or turned away at the hospital for not being family. That doesn’t seem Christ-like. And frankly, if Jesus had come today, instead of sitting down to eat with a tax collectors and sinners (Mark 2:15-17), he might have broke bread with Adam and Steve to make his point.
Maybe the DOMA ruling is not what you would have wanted for this country. But it’s not going up in flames just yet. Not today. Keep calm and carry on.
Do you AGREE or DISAGREE with me?
Please explain why in a comment below.
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